Doing What You Love Doing

 Doing What You Love Doing When my clients want to improve a skill or behavior, I ask them if they know someone who is already good at these things. I will suggest doing what you love doing. They frequently say…

How You Think About Yourself

How You Think About Yourself How you think about yourself rather than what you think about yourself is a useful question to ask because it helps you define your self-image.   Asking ‘what’ will inevitably bring about a judgment, whereas…

Refining Self Evaluation

Refining Self Evaluation I have clients who come to my office to work on problems of self-confidence. Because this is a broad concept, I try to break it down into small chunks so that we have some context to work…

Listening: When?

Listening: When? When Not to Listen When my clients tell me that they are feeling sad I will ask them how they do that. What? Well, by asking them ‘how’ they feel sad, they will naturally approach answering the question…