Here are the basics of Neuro Linguistic Programming:
1. Know Your Outcome
People respond best when they know what they want. It’s helpful to know what you don’t want, too. Start to envision (visualize) your best possible life. Identify what you’re willing to live with and do toward making changes. Once you can see your best life, you’ll be able to make good decisions leading you there.
2. Be Flexible
Being flexible and adaptable is truly an asset. It doesn’t mean you have to compromise every time there’s conflict, or give up on your dreams – it simply means you’re willing and able to flow with the unexpected changes that come your way. When you have a focused outcome, you’re able to see the variety of routes to get where you ultimately want to go. When you don’t have the outcome set in your mind, a bumpy ride might throw you off. Remember, you can always change your behavior and your route without altering your preferred outcome.
3. Use Your Senses with Precision (There are signs all along the way)
To reach your outcome, you’ve got to know whether you’re getting closer to it or further away. Learn to read feedback. Learn to reassess along the way. Learn to take risks and challenge yourself. And, most importantly, remember that failure is only feedback.
4. Take Action – Now!
This is personal power. Make a decision. Take action. Do something. Now! You can always change your path if one decision doesn’t get you to where you want to go. Again, when your ultimate goal is solid, you can use your decision-making and coping skills to guide you. Do it now! It’s all temporary anyway, and you can always change course.
5. Ask How, not Why
When your goal is solid and vivid, and you’ve clearly and carefully assessed why you want to achieve it to a precise level of performance that’s rooted in your core values, simply ask yourself next:’ how can I best reach my goals with the tools and skills I have within me?’ You make a plan, use a strategy to choose your best routes, and, GO!