When Not to Listen
When my clients tell me that they are feeling sad I will ask them how they do that. What? Well, by asking them ‘how’ they feel sad, they will naturally approach answering the question differently than had I asked ‘why’. Asking how they feel sad will help them access the thoughts that keep them feeling this way, such as reliving a hurtful conversation that wasn’t resolved.
Perhaps in considering ‘how’ they feel sad, they notice that they can hear the sound of angry voices and they haven’t decided to stop listening.
We can all stay in the trance of hearing hurtful words spoken by someone and allowing this to make us sad or blue. The best thing you can do is stop listening. Create an anchor to change the process.
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